IT IS THAT TIME ..... OLD HABITS DIE HARD

ELECTIONS…….ELECTIONS.....

The mood has changed, once again politics has reminded us we are not one. We have a political divide and hence inclined to our political alignment.

In Kenya this has been based more on tribal ground. Therefore we find ourselves supporting one of our own as it seems right regardless of whether they have delivered or not. Whether they are fit for that position or not.

Actually two things matter- your tribe and wealth.

We quickly forget about your integrity and concentrate on handouts. Campaigning requires money and machinery sadly mostly the rich are privileged here.

Their manifesto are the same, we have the same problems year in year out and they always promise to change our lives. Some deliver – a little number of them.

We cannot run away from it. Anyone who pretends they are not following politics must be burying their heads in the sand. You must follow politics, know your leaders, and make them accountable.

“The darkest place in hell are reserved for those who maintain their neutrality in times of moral crisis” Dante Alighieri

I am happy that this time round a quite number of youth have contested for various seats. This is a good sign, the future belongs to us and we must position ourselves. For those who also went for the enticing packages and corruption associated, what can we say, at least don’t sell your country to the graves, let us observe integrity.

Election comes once in 5 years. Let us not forget who our real neighbors are. After elections some of these politicians will not been seen until say near the next elections.

All am saying here has been said before in many ways/words but it’s not bad to continue stressing. Let us maintain peace. Engage and argue facts. Vote wisely and above all let’s pray for our country Kenya.

“In the end, that’s what this election is about. Do we participate in a politics of cynicism or a politics of hope” Barrack Obama.

Stay safe.

 

With Love,

the Woman in me.

FRIENDSHIP AND MONEY: OIL AND WATER- MARIO PUZO.

“Lend money to an enemy, and thou will gain him, to a friend and thou will lose him” Benjamin Franklin

“Honest is an expensive gift, don’t expect it from cheap people”

“Lending money to a friend, you lose both the friend and money”
 

Ever wondered why when you Google friendship and money all the searches just come out with negativity? Whatever happened to a friend in need is a friend in deed? Why don’t the two mix?

I believe we have all in a life time been in a position of either the recipient or the giver.

We have one time asked for material support from our friends once in a while, but there are those annoying things I wish both parties should avoid. The list is endless but I will name just a few:

1.       If am to lend you money and we agree on such a date, kindly don’t wait for me to call you by then agreed date if you haven’t paid, be courteous enough to call in advance if there any changes.

2.       Let me sleep on it should not be a whole week, are you snow white? It is a yes or no and we move on don’t keep the other party in suspense if you are not willing to lend them.

3.       When you borrow my car, if you can’t fill it up be kind enough to return it with the fuel gauge you left it on, don’t bring it on empty tank unless you found it that way and no scratches please.

4.       This is for fundi friends- If I refer you to work somewhere kindly deliver do not spoil my relationship with the other parties. Or worse still if I decide to promote your business by hiring your services don’t let me regret my decision. Maintain the highest standard of professionalism while dealing with me.

5.       Lending me more money when you still owe me is a NO NO. I refuse to entertain selective amnesia.

6.       God loves a cheerful giver and so do I. Be a blessing to your friends do not look down on anyone you help, you never know when the tables will turn, and the character should be higher than the collateral.

7.       When you help someone do not go announcing at the pulpit of your good deeds you are embarrassing your friends. Let not the right hand see what the left hand has given and your God who see things which are done in silence will reward you. Unless of course they start playing cat and mouse with you it’s when you can alert others not to fall in the same trap- buyer beware style *wink wink.

8.       Do not feel bad when a “wealthy” friend can’t come in aid on some occasions, it may not be that they are selfish, they might also be in need. You may be chasing a few thousands while they are chasing a few millions or billions you both lack on different lanes.

It is good to help one another and build one another- that is true friendship. On the other hand, let us not take advantage of each other’s kindness. It is good when friends live together as brothers and as they say money is good yet it’s the source of all evil. Let not money put us asunder. 

Ps…  You can add up to the list

 

With Love,
The WOMAN in me.

TIME, FRIENDSHIP AND SUCCESS

"SHOW ME YOUR FRIENDS AND I WILL SHOW YOU WHO YOU ARE"

I seem not to get enough of this topic. Friends, friends, friends, they can either build you or destroy you. Bad company corrupts good morals.

I seem to be in school learning everyday....

So far my notes.
1. Time is the only difference between us, one day I might be a poor boy in the village depending on CDF and harambees to further my studies, next I am a CEO, an entrepreneur, your boss.
Lesson learnt.
Never underestimate anyone. Do not look down or mistreat anyone. Be good to the less fortunate you never know what the future holds. Your house help today may be your child's employer tomorrow.

2. Be a friend in need. If you can find opportunities to help around. It does not have to material even just being there is enough. Your wise words may save a lot. In a funeral once a preacher said "Be available to help the bereaved and committee, if you don't have money, your services may be needed. Do not shy away. You never know they may need people to fetch water or gather firewood- you will have done your part.
Lesson learnt.
Circumstances bring out the true nature of people. It is only when you are in need that you will know your true friends. I once told my friend, not to say she has many friends but to say she know many people- friendship is a big word.
Proverbs 18:24" A man who finds friends must himself be friendly, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother"

3. Have a discerning eye when choosing your friends. Friends may determine your future. Choose friends who are truthful to you, we all have friends who serve different purpose e.g my friend- my prayer partner, my friend- my sound advisor, my friend- my shoulder to cry on, my friend-my mentor. They have to bring out the best in you in whatever aspect.

4.Use your time wisely. What you do now will determine your future. I like this saying from my friend "I am strategizing, I am preparing myself for I know an opportunity will come and there is nothing as bad as an opportunity which finds you not ready. I like the person I am becoming" This is an optimistic person whom when you talk to submits positive vibes your way. He already sees the bright future ahead of him- remember the law of attraction: if you can dream it and believe it you can achieve it. He is applying this law whether knowingly or unknowingly.

5. Be out there. Attend seminars, meet new people, travel the world, visit new places. It is only when you are out there that you will see and find new opportunities, a gap in a market, see trends on economy. Make friends with the young and old and see the world in their eyes. Make friends with people who are better than you- financially, education wise. In a room stand next to the smartest guy and learn. Always have a pen and paper just incase an idea pops out.

6. What works for another person may not work for you. We all have different talents don't emulate what your friend is doing just because you see them succeed.  Use what you have to succeed. We all have it in us.

Still learning. Still have more on this.

For now....

With love.
the WOMAN in me.