LIFE OF A WORKING MUM

Hi All,

It's been a while.
You are not the only people I neglected, sorry for that, my friends and family are also complaining. My all time excuse "my baby takes all my time".

Nearly went to a depression juggling work, family time baby and nannies.

You get this nanny that is very good with baby but house work zero. Not that I minded coz baby was a priority but when nanny from shags realizes the true beauty she has become after gaining a few kilos and learning the importance of Fair and Lovely then she becomes all over with every Tom Dick and Harry then you know you are in trouble.  Your baby is no longer a priority and occasionally baby is left sleeping alone and she runs for a quickie. Caught her once , twice then decided enough is enough. I guess when you have a little creature in your care you become more patient with a nanny that bonds well with them that at times they make you feel like a prisoner in your own home. I nowadays refuse to judge a mum who has countless nannies.

Having a support system is very important. My boss ( hope one day he gets to read my blog) is the most understanding friendly employer one will ever get. It was as if the company had a baby, gave encouragement, resources to read on embracing motherhood, changed my working hrs plus any emergencies I had and knowing a first time mum sometimes even smallest things to baby can be an emergency. I really value and appreciate this man. He truly is making this journey stress free.

So back to baby now. Initially we had sleepless nights. Baby used to cry all night reason I failed to understand. Thought it was colic but thank God that stage passed. I would have nearly lost it. Trust me it's not easy. I salute every mother who maintains sanity in all this. I thank God we are sleeping, now he only wakes up like 2 to 3 times in the night to breastfeed, am fine with that.

Now we are crawling..... HURRAYYYY.... But wait a minute you must have the energy to keep up with him. Everything has to be kept high enough out of reach and away. This young man has energy he literally drains us until at times we have to decide with hubby who will play with him when the other relaxes. Did I mention he is only 9 months cant wait for terrible two.

In all this I count it joy.

To my friends  hope you understand since now 80% of my stories will be about my son- his first word , his first steps, I guess just about his milestones in general and nanny dramas. I guess am just happy at this new role.

Reach out to us we tend to forget about outings and gatherings because any spare time we want to rush home and see how baby is doing and bonding time with family. Just try to squeeze in the picture/ our life, the love is still there.

I have learned to also have me time. It is important to just relax and breathe in recollect your energy.

I am slowly reaching out back to my normal life. It will never be the same. I now value true friendship- no time chit chat with people who don't add value to my life. I choose my battles wisely- Why waste my energy in things that will only derail me. I am more success oriented- I want the best for this young man and his siblings. I guess it will never be normal, it can never be normal. I have to work extra hard and hustle on another level. It can never be business as usual.

All thanks to this wonderful gift. It pushes you to places you have never dreamt of. Coming to think that you had all this in you, you just needed to tap into IT. I am grateful I did.

I love this journey and would not trade it for anything.

I guess am officially back.

with love,
the WOMAN in me.

IS LIFE REALLY THAT SIMPLE???

Recently been home for my maternity leave(one more month to go) and I must say I have really done some soul searching. It was a while since I was away from the normal 8-5 routine and I had forgotten how to spend my me time alone.

Baby was taking too much time and I had friends streaming in that I was not bored. Though this was mostly over the weekends so during weekdays just a few visitors and most of the time was just baby, nanny and I.

I had to keep myself busy, so I went into the internet. I never knew social media can be that boring if you spend most of your time there. I needed something deeper not gaze into posts or photos of what my friends had been up to.

This is when I stumbled in to it: THE LAW OF ATTRACTION.

I always had a clue about it but have never given it that deeper thought as of the past few weeks. I have listened to a few success stories of people who have used it and it actually works.

Is life really that simple??

Reminds me of the bible verse “My people perish for lack of knowledge.”

It reassures me that everything I have ever wanted, desired, dreamed is within my reach, I just have to learn on how to tap into it and align myself to receive it.

Now I understand why from a younger age we were made to write about our resolutions and what we wanted when we grew up. They actually wanted us to dream, to envision our life in future because it all starts with a dream.

 The Law actually works and here are a few pointers.

1. ·         Begin by clearing your mind of all negativity, have positive thoughts. Take your mind way back to a happy thought and remain in that mood.
2. ·         Now envision what you want in life.(One thing at a time e.g if today it’s a house stick on it)
3. ·         Live in that dream as if you have already received it. Let your mind wonder there.
4. ·         Make your request known.
5. ·         Believe that it is done by making a statement of affirmation to yourself and close that chapter and as simple as it seems that’s it.

Do remember:

Like attracts like. If you want to attract kindness you must yourself be kind to others. Positivism is the key here. You have to realise you attract whatever you think knowingly and unknowingly. This is why we even attract our fears.

Gratitude is very important. You must be thankful for what you have and who you are for the universe to give you what you desire.

Ask. Believe. Receive.(period). This is a thing of faith. External circumstances should not shake your belief. Just know that it will happen. It might take a bit longer or shorter for some cases but at the end it will surely come to pass.

Align yourself with the vision. More of like work on the being. E.g I want a car- get yourself a driving licence for starters, I want to travel round the world- do I even have a passport?, I want to get married- start behaving like a marriage ‘’material’’. Change your thinking and how you perceive yourself, you cannot dream of being a leader and your walking around like the world is on your shoulders, people must be able to look up to you. What message are you sending to the universe? Are you ready to receive what you have asked for?

Life can be really interesting if you choose to live it well.

“I came that you may have life and have it in abundance”- even our bible attests to that.

Is life really that simple?

The answer is it all depends on you(the wearer of the shoe). You get to choose which road you want to take and your destination.

My advice is You Only Live Once so CHOOSE WISELY.

With Love,

The WOMAN in me.

THE POWER OF THE TONGUE

PROVERBS 18:21
Death and life are in the power of the tongue. And those who love it will eat its fruit.

Today I would like to base my post on this sermon.

When I started this blog I never thought it would have to be anything to do with me. I envisioned I will be in the background more of like the producer in films who controls the show but no one sees them. More and more I get caught up in the whole idea and I find once in a while I open up my life bit by bit to my readers. It is true healing comes from within  and you cant preach water and drink wine. I believe am also in the journey of finding " the WOMAN in me."
My only wish is that we will all learn from this and move on.

Huraayyyy......

Baby came ...... If you followed my previous post I  was really waiting for this moment. I call it all joy. Though you are never that prepared, it is a learning process and for the sleepless night( Oh my God- story for another day) lets just say its part of motherhood.

The power of the tongue- more of like the next step after The Law of Attraction.

Simple stories.
Story One
My baby uses so much diapers as we are in the early weeks. I change like 5 to 6 times a day. We had a lot of pampers note from my baby shower and presents from our friends I had actually not bought any myself. I remember one time I became more keen and noticed we are using a pack of 40 diapers a week. I used to change my baby and every time I would joke "Baby just use as much as you want mummy and daddy are working and you will never lack". Then the pampers kept on depleting little by little and by the time I noticed we were on our last diaper and it was at night. I thought I had another stock as I kept them separately only to realize that was the last one. Hubby laughed sarcastically when I got shocked and reminded me of my words and we both laughed. I was now like baby please hold on this till tomorrow till daddy buys a new one. As sure baby did not soil his diaper and tomorrow before even daddy could go out we had early visitors and you can all guess what was among what they bought- diapers of course- and the right size.
I reminded hubby of my words.
The power of the tongue.
I used the Law of Attraction and attracted plenty/ abundance and went further and spoke the word.


Story Two.
I can be quite talkative if I choose to. So I have this bank I frequent. I know all the tellers and have my favorites of course. Once I pick my token no. I go and sit and wait for my token to be called. I play a bit with my mind and choose who I want to serve me then I go further and speak it. Surprisingly enough once my token is called guess who serves me?- right the one I had attracted. At first I thought it was a coincidence but I have proved it works over and  over again.

You just tap into it and believe.

What am I saying- If you can surely envision something and believe, then speak it out it will surely come to pass as long as you believe.

It will happen.

So guard your mouth. You can choose to speak life or death to any situation if you only believe.


With Love,
the WOMAN in me.

2016- NEW YEAR- CLOCK TICKING

4th January 2016.
Received a wake up call from hubby and my boss. Let me just say both traveled (separately of course) for holidays and I was to resume today at work. Each one of them wanted to know if am coming to work. I was indeed resuming but a bit late of course.

I must mention them and some people too as Angels in my life during this period. Hubby of course is expected because this is our baby and we both have to play a role so I will exclude him in this list.

Angel 1- My Boss.
If I could be working somewhere else am not sure if I would have survived. I would have quit by now or being fired. My last trimester is proving to be challenging. I have been having a smooth pregnancy until now. I don't sleep, my back ACHES a lot, finding a sleeping or sitting position is a problem. This results to I cannot sleep well at night hence waking up is a problem and I cant sit for long I have to wake up and do mini strolls quite often when in the office. My boss and workmates have ensured I have conducive atmosphere and they keep sharing foods and fruits even exercises to do to boost my immunity. I am grateful.

I went for my last clinic just the other day after my sister insisted it has to be labor and got the shock of my life. That previous night I could not sleep my back just wouldn't let me for once I even thought that was labor. I tossed and turned had my back rubbed took a midnight shower but nothing. That was tough. The next day I was at hospital with my other ANGELS- Maureen, Susan(Sister) and Samantha.

I was in and out of the lab with various tests and repetition of tests until I started getting pissed off. "How comes it was only my results which had problems or machine broke down" We sensed danger but they assured us everything was fine.

Finally the results came out - my blood was so low plus my calcium was too low also.

It's true I had not been eating well this few days my appetite was low but I tried. This meant if I gave birth now according to the nutritionist I will labor for long and if I loose blood after labor let me just it would be bad for me. Or my baby would have rickets. WHAT? That guy scared me considering am due anytime soon.

But I guess the shock was good for me- a wake up call. With the new eating timetable am following it keenly even if am not eating a lot, I make sure I have a bite. I take my medicines religiously.

I was eager to have this baby come out. Right now am taking it a step at a time. No hurry. All in God's time. I mean He started a good thing and He must carry it to completion- that is His nature.

Motherhood is indeed a journey and I respect every woman who has gone through this. Especially our mothers who had like 10 kids how did you even manage?

May God guide us as we go through this journey. If you see me in town and I pass you- apologies in advance maybe am too tired of chitchat. Or even if you see me like the world is on my shoulder - kindly understand there are those days that seem tough. We will laugh about this later.
Oh and there are times I feel like not answering my phone- Apologies. I try my best I pray to God to strengthen me more.

Enough of my whining.

With all this am still thankful for a new year of opportunities, The bundle of joy am carrying whom am starting to imagine now how he will look- mixture of mummy and daddy( and the two shall become one). I count this all joy.

This is what women go through everyday and they still afford a smile. I salute each and everyone of you.

Clock is ticking- Waiting to "download" anytime now. LOL. I won't lie am a bit scared but this is a process that has to happen. SO BRING IT ON.


With Love,
the WOMAN in me.