BEHAVIORAL CHANGES IN CHILDREN

Am seated at my office and I glance at the clock on my computer, it's 4:45pm. Am thinking to myself I have 15 minutes to go home; am not ready.

I have a preschooler, an infant, a nanny and a husband who are all waiting for me at home. I have had a long day and I just want to get away/ run away from my duty waiting for me at home. I wish I could just call and tell them am getting late, I have a meeting or an event am attending. Don't get me wrong I love my family and am grateful for the gift of family in my life. This was one time my prayer point.

I straighten my blouse, dust my shoes and pick my bag. My other duty calls and I have to obey.

I make my way home, I walk up the stairs and ring the bell.

My preschooler opens in excitement, a warm hug follows with praises of mummy, mummy you are home. Of course am asked what I have bought for him, at times there are snacks- a thank you kiss or hug follows, sometimes I just explain it was along day and I did not carry anything to which he understands and hopes next time I get a goody to bring.

My infant is seated peacefully with the nanny watching Television. At the sound of my voice excitement sets in, on seeing me now he is in cloud nine. He wants to jump to me, if only he could, he stretches up his arms for me to pick him up. I give him a kiss on the cheek and head over to freshen myself.

Now the house is in a different mood. My wish is to quickly prepare dinner in time so that we can all retire to bed early. My preschooler has an early morning to go to school, my nanny has to sleep early in time for next day and I also have to sleep early for tomorrow. Remember now my infant does not want the nanny to hold him and he is now cranky, the nanny also wants to relax spending the whole day with an infant ain't easy. Thanks to CBC my preschooler has homework waiting for me to do together.

As I rush through all this my husband arrives, he passed through gym and he enters all worn out. All he can do is help in holding the baby or have some homework done with our preschooler.

My children now are a bit relaxed, my clingy preschooler is with me in the kitchen cooking. Once we are done we have to fight feeding, you should see him feed well when with the nanny.

Whatever happens to these kids when mummy arrives????

Anyway let me get back to work, kids need to be fed and sleep, my nanny is continuing with her daily briefing as I work and delegate some duties. CBC homework done, house clean, preparations for tomorrow done, we sip on our lemon water as we unwind.

It wasn't bad after all.  We made it with all the tantrums and excitement. The day ended well. God is great, He surely gives us what we are equipped to handle.

Do not let fear consume you. In all situations breathe in and out, straighten your cloth and face it with God, knowing you are made for this.


with Love,
the WOMAN in me.

THE POWER OF A NAME

Phillipians 2:10-11
That at the name of Jesus every knee should bow,in heaven and on earth and under the earth, and every tongue confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the father,

John 14:13-14
And I will do whatever you ask in my name, so that the Father may be glorified in the Son. If you ask me anything in my name I will do it..

Do you see how important it was for Jesus to protect His name, that by the mention of "JUST" his name things move and miracles happen.

What is your name? What was the story behind your naming?

1st Chronicles 4:9
The prayer of Jabez
Now Jabez was more honorable than his brothers. His mother had named him Jabez, saying, "Because I bore him in pain." And Jabez called out to the God of Israel,"If only you would bless me and enlarge my territory! May your hand be with me and keep me from harm, so that I would be free from pain." And God granted the request of Jabez...

Notice what the mother had named the son- Jabez which means pain. From his prayer he is asking God to keep him away/ free of pain, which means his life must have been of pain. All this beginning with his name. So when everyone was calling him pain and he would respond then that means he is agreeing and as a result the universe sends more pain to his life.

What have you called your children? How would you address them? What do you speak in your life, the life of your children, your husband, your family, your friends, your neighbors, your clients, your employers, your employees?

Hakuna mwanaume ni faithful.
Universe: Your wish is my command.
Boom- even your once good husband haoni skirt na macho.

Haki huyu mtoto haskiangi maneno. Kuja hapa mjinga wewe.
Universe: Your wish is my command.
Boom- Your kids become slow and unmanageable.

Haki ni kama nilirogwa. Natafuta kazi sipati.
Universe: Your wish is my command.
Boom- You will tarmac all your life.

The good news is that you can change your story and unchange the history. Jabez was aware of this and therefore he asked of God of Israel to keep him away from pain. Pain that had followed him from the time his mother conceived him till the time he was seeking God's intervention.

Be conscious of how you speak to and about yourself. Do not speak negatively even in a joke. The universe does not know the difference.

Exodus 3:13-14
Moses said to God, "Suppose I go to the Israelites and say to them,'The God of your fathers has sent me to you,'and they ask me,'What is his name?' Then what shall I tell them?"
God said to Moses,"I am who I am. This is what you are to say to the Israelites: 'I am has sent me to you."

Now you understand when we are told we were made in the image of God. His name is I AM.
So anything you say after I am it becomes, for you have mentioned the name of the Lord in it.

Therefore use positive words:

I am happy. I am loved. I am blessed. I am highly favored. I am renewed in my youth. I am beautiful. I am a good friend. I am the best mother to my children. I am successful.

Start everyday commanding your day and sending positive vibes and see the tremendous change it will have on your life.

Speak life in every dead area of your life.

I was joking the other day- I named my son "a brave lion". If you see how he behaves even when playing with his peers, he always wants to dominate, he has to be the one who chooses what they play with, where they play, and he has to be the leader of the pack and I was like yes this is what you were named. If I see any character that is not what he was meant to be I point it out and address it.

My second born- "a winner, ruler of the home", that's what his name stands for. This one controls the mood of the house and everything in it. He has had his downs but he has always come out a winner. We thank God.

I love how parents who are conscious of the power use it even when speaking to their children.

"Daktari wee thaga kiki par ni ma hospital"

"Madam CEO is awake"

There are couples who even use on their spouses with words like, "My King", "My Queen"

Self love is important so first and foremost change your world before you change the world. Change how you address and carry yourself and people will meet you up there. Remember if people look down on you it's because you yourself look down on you.

Angie Smart(This lady guses herself up. She is her own cheerleader and when I look at her I see the smart beautiful lady, nyaboro she confesses.)

The world will treat you how you treat yourself.

So who am I?

I am God's child. I am Blessed. I am highly favored.

Ask yourself, who are you? What is your name?????



with Love,
the WOMAN in me.