WHEN ALL HOPE IS GONE.

Yes I have prayed about it for too long now, I don't want to pray about it any more. I mean how can you pray for one prayer item for over years.

Yes I have read the scriptures and it is according to God's will.

Yes I have had others encourage me to wait for God's time. I wonder if there's something like God's timing any more, how do I know it is not meant for me now?

I am angry.

I am hopeless. Who do I pour out my anger to? To mankind? Do I blame it on my parents? Do I blame my spouse? Do I get angry at God? How can I even be angry at someone I still need?

I believe most of us have been in this situation at one time in our lifetime, when the answers are too far to reach. When all hope is gone.

How can I pretend to feel your pain if I can not relate with what you are going through? How can you console a woman who has lost a child if you do not even know the much pain she is going through?
.........Just be there for them. Sometimes you do not even have to talk, your presence is just enough.Be the friend you will want them to be.

The battle though is within. One has to pull themselves out of this situation. Unless you are ready to heal you will remain in the same sick position and hopeless.You must have the strong will. Know that in all these you can overcome.Fight for your happiness, I mean You Only Live Once, Live Well.

1. Read the Bible. There's an enormous wealth of knowledge in this book. Though we overlook it sometimes it has a lot we can learn from.

2. Talk to a trusted person. Do not keep it all bottled up. It may consume you and lead to unnecessary illnesses like ulcers. Find someone you can share out your problems. Sometimes just having someone listen to you really helps, if they can advice accordingly the better. At times you will find others have gone through the same or even worse and they have overcome.

3. Find other reasons to be happy. Do not concentrate on your problems you will only magnify them. Do not worry so much. Mathew 6:34. Take a day at a time. Take care of you. Find things that make you happy and do them.

4. Surround yourself with people.Do not lock yourself out from the community. Socialize. Volunteer to attend that office cocktail. Join a Chama that meets occasionally. Join a fellowship group from your church. Just make yourself busy and don't give your mind a chance to feel sorry for itself.

5. Pray. Learn how to pray. Pray targeted prayers to your situation. Sometimes we run to men of God to pray for us or even our friends but we forget we have the ability to do so ourselves. They can help you to pray but you must continue to pray for yourself each and every day.

6. Do not compare yourself with others. Everyone has there own journey. Do not compare yourself or spouse with others. It is only the wearer of the shoes who knows where it pinches. You might not know the pain and sacrifices others had to take to get where they are. Sometimes its not all rosy on the other side as you might imagine.At the end of the day we all have our own journey and that is why we are unique in different interesting ways.

Your belief in a higher being will come in handy. We all know that God is Love and His plans for us are good.

I have this statement we use with my friend and spiritual mentor " God if I am going to wait for _ __ , make it worth the wait" Simply if I have been say waiting for a wedding for quite sometime dear Lord when the time comes make it the most memorable wedding of a lifetime? This can apply to any situation, say a car, a house, a business opportunity, a good job- just fill the blank space with your prayer item.

What have you been praying for? Have faith that things are moving even if you are not seeing them, know that people are in the factory making it possible for you. Just think of it that your's is a bit special it has to take time for it to come out perfectly. God is preparing you for something bigger, bigger than even what you think and when the time comes you will understand. You will look back and smile. The bigger your problems the bigger your testimony.

In all this the good always win. The devil can only postpone your destiny, but when the time comes...........Oh My God (dancing round) It will be worth the wait.

I only pray that God may give you patience. Pray without ceasing. May the peace that surpasses all understanding be with you.Keep the right attitude. Have a heart of thanksgiving in all circumstances. Acknowledge God in all your works. Give Him all the glory for He is a jealous God.

Our God is good and out of Him comes goodness. Whatever you are praying for as long as it is according to God's will have faith that it will come to pass.

The same God who has kept you all this while, who has won other battles for you, is the same one who will win this one for you. He never changes. He is the same yesterday, today and tomorrow. If He did it for you, He will still do it for you.

Have faith, smile, dress up and show up.
Everything will fall in place.

Be Blessed.

With love,
the Woman in me.